Postby healey36 » Fri Apr 17, 2015 5:33 pm
For me, the great tragedy of road trips is that they eventually come to an end. There is something incredibly therapeutic about being on the road for an extended period of time. Sometimes the return home remedies the disappointment experienced at the mid-point.
Three years ago I road-tripped to Fayetteville, North Carolina, to bury one of my college room-mates. It was a couple of days before Christmas when the call came…his sister gave few details of the circumstances. I had a house full of people at the time, and was uncertain and troubled on what to do. I made a few calls and let my other former house-mates know, making no commitment to attend the funeral. Christmas night one of the guys called and said he had to go and I agreed…we had to go.
Two days after Christmas, a Sunday, I excused myself from a house full of family, drove to Baltimore to join my buddy Mark for the drive south. The weather looked dismal…Maryland, Virginia and North Carolina was due for a good dose of snow. The best vehicle we had for such prospects was a four-wheel drive Ford F-250 diesel…we mounted up and headed south.
It started snowing just south of DC. I-95, as always, was a parking lot. The mixture of folks heading home after the holidays and the snow led to long tie-ups. Rummaging around in the glove-box yielded a few maps, a couple of granola bars and a sorry collection of CD’s, but there was a three-disc set of The Doors. Jim Morrison never sounded better, drowning out the throb of that diesel.
The road opened up a bit after Richmond, but the snow was still coming down heavy. The terrain flattened out as we pushed across the state line into NC. We were dead hungry rolling into Fayetteville, but nothing was open…six inches of snow had snuffed out commerce for the evening. A guy out walking his dog sent us to a bar over by the airbase where we got some sandwiches and a few beers. The place was crawling with Airborne, many just back from Afghanistan. The last thing they needed to hear was our story, but they toasted my room-mate and the journey. It felt good.
We headed over to the funeral home for the service. It turned out his wife had Parkinson’s, and Eric had driven himself into the ground taking care of her. He’d been diagnosed with diabetes a couple of years earlier but hadn’t taken care of himself, and his old Ranger body had given out. His wife, who we both knew well, didn’t recognize us…maybe it was the shock, maybe the Parkinson’s. I’d made a point of calling Eric every few months just to chat…he’d never let on he was sick and struggling. The last time we’d spoken we’d talked about heading out to Oshkosh for the air show…now we weren’t going to make it.
A minister showed up, said a few words, then one of their sons spoke, thanked everyone for coming. The burial would be delayed a day or so due to the weather. It seemed pointless sticking around.
The Old Man once told me that one should live his or her life and avoid regrets at all cost…those have a way of piling up and hanging around for a long time. I’d managed to get fifty-five years in the books up until that point with very few, but I earned one that evening.
Heading out of Fayetteville I dumped a hundred bucks of diesel into the truck, then wound my way back to the interstate northbound. Mark slept the first leg. Still snowing, I got into a clutch of truckers and followed along. The trip was dicey, all the overpasses had frozen but people kept driving at maximum speed…saw more than a few wipeouts along the way. The truckers took care of us, detouring a few times to get around pile-ups. A few miles south of Richmond it stopped snowing.
We talked old times, Frostburg, cars, music, women (lack thereof). A lot of memories, some good, some lousy. The five or six of us had been tight…we thought we were still tight, just Eric had slipped away from us. I felt at peace as we crossed the Potomac and headed back up to Baltimore. We pulled up to Mark’s place around three in the morning. A handshake and slap on the shoulder and I was back on the road, heading up onto the Piedmont and home.
Eric had been the consummate road-tripper. He thought nothing of jumping in the car and disappearing for a few days. Sometimes we’d head down to the Cumberland airport, smoke, drink a few beers and watch the planes come and go. He and I had done a long one back in ’76, Baltimore to Atlanta to visit his parents, then on to Austin, Texas and a quick slip across the border, then up through Oklahoma to Denver, before turning back east. Three weeks in a brand-spanking new Chevy Nova. At the time I’d never been south of Virginia or west of Ohio. Here I'd gotten a sweep across the south, a glimpse of my father's alma mater, a sliver of Mexico, then the Rockies. It felt like a life-changer, a great trip, seemingly endless highway.
But eventually everyone runs out of highway. Now, somewhere, wherever Eric was, I figured he had to be smiling.
Sarge, glad you spotted that Morgan...it's a gorgeous automobile.
Healey